Our Vows

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“I come here today to join your life for years. I pledge to be true to you, to respect you, and to grow with you through the years. We are many things to each other, may only those best qualities continue to shine and may our bond continue to grow stronger. Time may pass, fortune may smile, trails may come; no matter what we may encounter together, I vow here today that this love will be my only love. I will make my home in your heart from this day forward.”  – Jonathan & Aaron

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Gay Batman Themed Wedding Part 3: Ceremony & Reception

After having my own wedding, I can’t understand why people would want a big wedding. I think it’s crazy. Aaron and I tried to be careful on who we invited. We only wanted family and close friends, but that ended up being a total of 75 guests —- 8 tables filled with people. In my opinion, this would be considered a small wedding, considering some weddings can estimate around 300-500 guests! Even with a modest 75 people, it took Aaron and I until the late end of the night before we managed to make our way to the last table during our rounds. I honestly don’t understand how newlyweds are able to handle more than 100 attendees. I don’t recommend it because you don’t have time to fully enjoy your own wedding. There isn’t time. My mom told me one time that she doesn’t even remember eating at her wedding. That’s crazy! There is so much blood, sweat, and tears that go into planning a wedding that I feel like you should enjoy it when it’s happening or you’ll just regret it.

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Our reception was held at an amazing Italian Restaurant called Antonello in costa Mesa, California. The chef, Salvatore Ferrara happens to be my brother. It seemed like a small venue, but it was a perfect size for everything we wanted. We had a small dance floor, are own private bar, and enough room that still kept to an intimate setting. That was really important to us because we wanted everyone to interact and enjoy themselves. The food is devious there! Even if you aren’t looking to have your wedding there I still recommend it for a date, or just a simple night out.

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Gay Batman Themed Wedding Part 2: Cake & Flowers

The Cake

I’m going to start off with the cake because that was my favorite part! Again, we tried to keep to some traditions like a beautiful, white wedding cake, but we also wanted our cake to be fun, creative, and express  who we are as a couple. One side of the cake was all white, and the other was a Gotham theme. I was really surprised at how many compliments we got about this cake. I thought some people might think it was too “childish,” but that wasn’t the case at all. I had strangers on Facebook asking me about this cake. It was actually inspired by batman themed wedding cakes we found online, but we asked our cake decorator to do her own version. It turned out to be an awesome, 3-layer cake and I wouldn’t have changed one part of it. It’s a cake we’ll remember when we’re old and gray. If you would like to learn more about the bakery check out https://www.facebook.com/rjskitchen. RJ’S Kitchen by baker Sheree Estrella!! We totally recommend her!

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We also wanted the cake topper to be one-of-a-kind, so we came across a cute etsy store online hat specializes in laser cut wedding toppers! They cut a special double groom topper complete with a Batman Mask.

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The Flowers

Honestly, I think flowers are a pain in the butt. Me and Aaron just aren’t flower types of people. We don’t get each other roses for Valentine’s Day, or for anniversaries, or–ever. They just aren’t our thing. I would get Aaron a cool new jacket, or a shirt, or a fun toy for his desk at work before I got him a flower…. Well, maybe if it was filled with chocolate : )  With that said, you could only imagine how uninterested we were for shopping for flowers for our wedding. Maybe it’s because I’m a guy (I don’t know), but I thought picking out flowers for a wedding would be easy. I would pick whichever one I thought looked pretty. WRONG! Does it match? Can the bridesmaids walk down the aisle holding them? Are they for the centerpiece? Can we use them for the gazebo? And honestly, there is about a hundred more questions you need to ask yourself before you pick out FLOWERS. It was my least favorite part of the entire wedding planning experience, and so, I left it for my mom to handle. She picked the white flowers with the black jewels (which I thought looked awesome) and ordered them off of http://www.afloral.com/Silk-Wedding-Flowers/Silk-Bridal-Bouquets

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Oh! By the way, these flowers were fake, which I know some people are totally against, but let me tell you, real flowers are far more expensive and during the craziness of the morning of your wedding day you have to have someone pick them up so that they’re fresh and arrange them at the ceremony and reception —- All that morning! Getting fake ones will save you the trouble. Aaron and I, along with the wedding party, were able to set the reception the night before, which also saved a lot of time for other, more enjoyable decorating.

A gay Batman themed wedding

Aaron: When Jon and I first started dating, (longer than I’d care to admit, *cough* 8years ago *cough*) gay marriage was unheard of in the United States. Needless to say, it was a horrible feeling not to be able to marry the one person I planned to spend the rest of my life with, but we had slowly began to accept it. When gay marriages became legal, we had only been dating for a short time, so we were both too young and figured “hey, we could wait a year or two.” But we were wrong, gay marriage was banned again a few months later, so we vowed to get married just as soon as it opened up again.

And when it did, we planned to throw a huge, geeky, dream wedding that would stay in our memories forever. And we made sure that dream came true.

Jonathan: Ladies and gentleman, boys and girls, children of all ages, welcome to Jonathan & Aaron’s BATMAN WEDDING: a night in Gotham!

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Every day this week I’m going to write a post dedicated to a part of our wedding. This wedding could have easily cost 20,000-30,000 dollars, but it didn’t cost us near that because a lot of it was things we did on our own to save money. So, todays post is going to be about invitations and gifts for your groomsmen and/or bridesmaids, or in Aaron and my case, brides men. Let’s jump into the invitations. Don’t spend a lot of money on these. It could be so expensive and not worth it. The thing about weddings is, you go into them knowing you’re going to spend a lot of money because you want everything amazing. But be weary. You can cut a couple corners and still have something beautiful to show for it. When it comes to our invitation, we got all our pieces individual off of Papersource.com and put it together ourselves. The inscription part we pretty much made by ourselves and we just pasted them onto a black sheet of stock paper. The batman symbol (my favorite part of the invitation) we had my sister-in-law cut out by using her shape machine. It might look very complicated, but making these invitations was a breeze and they cost no more than $100… which, believe me, can be considered a steal!

Now, the wedding party. Being together for 8 years, all of mine and Aaron’s friends have become equally both of our friends so it felt strange to divide them up. We decided against two different sides, and instead,  we had a group of 7 girls and 1 boy as our wedding party. Being “a kind” of batman theme we wanted to stray from the wedding looking like a 5-year-old’s birthday party, but come off a little classier. We started with the wedding party. First of all,  not to toot-our-own-horns, but Aaron and I were the best grooms ever! We let the girls go to Macy’s and pick out their dresses. ANY black dress, we didn’t care. The one that we liked the best happened to be on sale for $60!! On top of that, one of the girls worked for Macy’s and got the dresses down to $40 each! In addition to that, all of the girls could wear the dress again, and again and again. The little back dress never goes out of style.

Now, we wanted to do something special for the wedding party favors. These eight friends have truly been our greatest friends and we really consider them part of our family. Aaron and I decided on a laser-cut masquerade mask. We thought this would keep to the superhero theme, as well as come off classy and cool.

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Each mask was different. One of them resembled a bat, another a fox, one a lioness, and so on and so forth. These were a really fun wedding party gift because it was something we could all wear for pictures in the wedding. We had lots of fun with these : )  When we gifted each mask to our friends, we put them each in a frame so that they could always have it and got little gold plates with their name, date, and position engraved across.

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What about the world’s cutest ring boys?

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They got their own cape!

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